Because there isn’t any initial human contact when meeting someone online, making a good first impression is vital. The immediacy of online dating makes it even more important to create a good first impression so you don’t get skipped over or deleted. But when there is no face to face contact, how do you make yourself stand out using just words?
Use Humor. Sense of humor is one of the top qualities couples say makes them compatible. If you’re the first to connect with someone via the internet, keep your message light. Try to add some humor, jokes or sarcasm to show your fun side.
Be intellectual. Using proper grammar and punctuation, and always proofread before you hit send. Know the difference between “your” and “you’re” and use the right one. With the uncertainty of online dating, people may not know who they are really talking to. So why make yourself look like a third grader with misspellings and improper grammar? Show your smarts with your words and you’ll be sure to make a strong impression.
Don’t rush when making your profile. Your online profile is sometimes the only thing people have to determine who you are. So take your time making it. Put detail behind your “interests” and “likes” sections, and let your personality shine through in your descriptions.
Read through their profile first. Before sending that initial message, you want to get a good idea of who you’re talking to. That will give you a clearer idea of what to say and how to approach them. Look for common interests you two share, and use that as a conversation starter. Ask questions, and be sure to focus a lot more on them then you do yourself.
Say more than just “Hello”.To an online dater with an overflowing inbox of messages, one saying just “Hello” isn’t likely to get a response. It’ll probably end up in the trash bin. Your first message to someone needs to spark their interest, and make them want to further engage with you. Be creative and confident when introducing yourself.